There's plane tickets to buy. Hotels to book. Cars to rent. Talking to the client to arrange for meeting times.
Then there's the moment when I have to tell my husband I am going on another trip. This is the part that I dread the most. It used to be breaking the news to my then 5 year old son...now it's my 43 year old husband.
In fact, I hate having to tell him about the next trip so much, that I leave in 7 days and I haven't told him yet. The ticket has been bought and on the credit card statement for a month, but he still has no clue.
Today is the day. I can't wait any longer to tell him. I feel like a little kid waiting for Daddy to come home and tell him that I made Mommy angry. And I do not like feeling this way.
Why do I feel this way?
Because I know how he will react. This isn't just an overnight trip this time. It is a Monday to Friday trip, which don't come very often. But he will get pissed (yup) that it will be so long, then he will whine because he will have to deal with the son's schedule, worry about dinner...blah, blah, blah. It's all about avoidance for me. Avoid it as long as I can!
So what do I do? I overcompensate. I plan and cook all the meals for the week, make sure all the laundry is done, lists of what to warm up on each day, schedules posted of when to pick son up. Then, with son in sports, arrange for someone to bring him home after the late night track meet. All to make it easier on him.
Okay, who am I kidding? Wearing myself out like that, really makes it easier on me because then I don't have to listen to the whining. It just makes it easier to enjoy the restaurant meals and the housekeepers cleaning my room when I am traveling.
I always get the feeling that I am alone with all my planning and preparation before I leave. If you plan like I do, please let me know...I want to know that I am not the only crazy wife out there. We can compare war stories!
Wish me luck... Armageddon occurs in T -10 hours.....
***Side note: My DH is great at helping out with laundry, dishes etc...He just doesn't like being a "single dad" during the week when he has to get up early for work and all that. And yes, he does count on me to keep the household running smoothly without him having to think too much.
Then there's the moment when I have to tell my husband I am going on another trip. This is the part that I dread the most. It used to be breaking the news to my then 5 year old son...now it's my 43 year old husband.
In fact, I hate having to tell him about the next trip so much, that I leave in 7 days and I haven't told him yet. The ticket has been bought and on the credit card statement for a month, but he still has no clue.Today is the day. I can't wait any longer to tell him. I feel like a little kid waiting for Daddy to come home and tell him that I made Mommy angry. And I do not like feeling this way.
Why do I feel this way?
Because I know how he will react. This isn't just an overnight trip this time. It is a Monday to Friday trip, which don't come very often. But he will get pissed (yup) that it will be so long, then he will whine because he will have to deal with the son's schedule, worry about dinner...blah, blah, blah. It's all about avoidance for me. Avoid it as long as I can!
So what do I do? I overcompensate. I plan and cook all the meals for the week, make sure all the laundry is done, lists of what to warm up on each day, schedules posted of when to pick son up. Then, with son in sports, arrange for someone to bring him home after the late night track meet. All to make it easier on him.
Okay, who am I kidding? Wearing myself out like that, really makes it easier on me because then I don't have to listen to the whining. It just makes it easier to enjoy the restaurant meals and the housekeepers cleaning my room when I am traveling.
I always get the feeling that I am alone with all my planning and preparation before I leave. If you plan like I do, please let me know...I want to know that I am not the only crazy wife out there. We can compare war stories!
Wish me luck... Armageddon occurs in T -10 hours.....
***Side note: My DH is great at helping out with laundry, dishes etc...He just doesn't like being a "single dad" during the week when he has to get up early for work and all that. And yes, he does count on me to keep the household running smoothly without him having to think too much.
May the force be with you - LOL. I would do the SAME thing preparing meals, making lists and making sure everything was in order before I left, too!! It makes it easier on everyone that way!
ReplyDeleteI shall not comment my thoughts because I get irritated at my brethren who don't want to be "troubled" with having to take care of things for their kids and expect the moms to do it all. Wait, I think I just said it. Anyway, I am sorry you have to go through all this, Tina. I hope it goes okay.
ReplyDeleteMasshole Mommy~ thanks, I knew I wasn't the only one! And yes, it is easier for us.
ReplyDeleteChris~ Thanks for the kind words...I think I may have led people astray regarding my DH. He does help out around the house, takes care of the kids etc. It's just that he doesn't like being a single parent if he doesn't have to during the week. He has long days that start early and he stresses about doing it all. It is much easier now that the kids are older, but I am also an enabler... :)
I may have read more into it as well. I was referring to the guys that don't lift a finger. Your hubby sounds like he does help out. That's good. Sorry for reading more into it than there was.
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